CNC Kink is also known as Rape Play and is one of the most controversial topics within the world of sex. It shouldn’t be. We’ll be discussing what CNC is and why people love it.
CNC stands for Consensual Non Consent. Two partners agree (consensually) to engage in a sexual relationship that revolves around forced domination (non-consent), which can include fantasies of rape. CNC’s foundation must be built on trust, communication, prior negotiation and agreement.
CNC can be described as an extreme exchange of power between two consenting parties. One wants to feel the thrill of total control and the other desires to give up all authority in the bedroom. Participants in CNC often mention that the practice provides adrenaline and a turn-on, but also intense self-reflection, connection, emotional healing, and even connection.
You might be blindfolded or tied down, teased, touched, or even raped as an example of CNC. Person A may say “No” and struggle against their will while Person B might continue with the sexual act despite Person C’s pleas. It all boils down to a “predator”, a person who “overcomes” the victim (sub) through “force.”
Important note: A safeword, like Grapefruit, should ALWAYS have been negotiated before the event. Person A can shout “GRAPEFRUIT!” to notify Person B that they want to stop what is happening.
CNC has been the subject of much debate. Some will say it is dangerous and an aberration in sexual & emotional intimacy. Some might even consider it unethical and perverse. It is not different from other kinks, and it is fine so long as there is plenty of communication and agreement. CNC is considered safer than regular sex, as it requires consent, trust, and communication.
We caution you against judging others, regardless of your opinions. No matter what your opinion is, we caution against judging others.
- Do your research before you go.
- Go with someone you trust.
- Use safewords
- Have a conversation about check-in before and after.
- Do what makes your heart happy