What is it?
Talk dirty. Now, take that 11 and make it deliberately shocking and degrading. This is the consensual practice of using derogatory words and phrases to humiliate your partner in sex. DK is consensual and fulfilling for both partners.
DK, like CNC Kink, is a controversial topic. Is it okay to make your partner feel inferior in bed? Is it not wrong to dehumanize someone you care about and respect?
It all depends on what OK you have.
The dynamic between two people who love DK is not known. We don’t know what the degree is thinking or feeling. We can’t make a general judgment about what is right or wrong. As long as the content is legal, safe, and consensual we will leave each one to its own and let you decide.
Here are some arguments for DK
- It’s not sexual abuse or misogyny.
- Both the giver as well as the receiver can find it cathartic
- It can also lead to deeper intimacy and trust, similar to other fetishes.
- Domination and ownership are natural human sexual desires
- It doesn’t matter if two people agree to it.
Some arguments against DK
- It is disrespectful and abusive
- It’s abuse disguised as a fetish
- When one partner is “owned”, it creates an unequal power dynamic.
- It can lead to trauma in future relationships
- Low self-esteem in the outside world can result.