Many people think that marriage is easy or simple, but the truth is that it shouldn’t be compared to a casual friendship. Marriage involves many promises, so you need to be very careful. Make sure you understand what marriage is all about. You need to be sure that you can live with your partner in any situation, and that you both truly love each other. The marriage you’re considering should not be one that leads to divorce.
Here’s why you mustn’t rush into marriage:
Remember, it’s better to take your time and marry the right partner than to rush into marriage with the wrong person and end up divorced. Try to understand what you’re getting into. Learn from the successes of other couples because marriage doesn’t succeed by chance. It takes hard work, understanding, and endurance. There’s a promise made, “for better or for worse,” to love and support your partner until death. So, don’t treat it like an ordinary relationship because it’s much more than that.
Don’t think that because she is beautiful, she will automatically make a good wife and mother. Beauty cannot build a home, but good character, obedience, respect, and understanding can. Don’t assume that because he is rich, you will lack nothing. Only a man who loves, cares, understands, values, and shows concern for you will make you happy. So why rush into a marriage that you might quickly regret or seek to divorce?
Don’t be misled by your feelings or the feelings you have for the person. Think carefully and be sure your partner is the right one for you. Marriage is the product of diligent work, and your partner needs to be willing to work with you to make it succeed.
Ensure your partner listens to you and agrees with you because it takes two to make a marriage work. There can’t be a healthy relationship without agreement. Your partner should be someone who listens and agrees with you, but understand that you and your partner cannot always agree on every issue without understanding each other and the essence of marriage. You need to know each other’s likes and dislikes.
Above all, understand God’s expectations in marriage, because without God, your marriage will lack peace. Think carefully about the marriage you’re about to enter or may one day have with someone, so you don’t make a mistake. Marriage is sweet when you’re with the right person, but it can be bitter or even hellish if you marry the wrong person. So, be careful.