Clingy people can make it difficult to date. Dating a Stage Five Clinger even more so. A Stage Five Clinger can be a difficult person to date.
You don’t know the person you are when you first start dating. As you get to know one another, it is normal for you both to want to spend as much time together. It’s all fine and dandy until you realize that the person you are seeing is looking to spend a lot of time with you.
It’s wonderful to spend time with your partner. However, it can be a problem if it is one-sided. You’ll feel overwhelmed if your partner constantly pays attention to you, making it difficult for you to enjoy your time together, socialize, or relax. This will lead to a poor relationship.
People who are too attached often don’t understand the consequences of their behaviour on others. If you ask them to step back and allow you some space, they may be offended. A clingy person might become anxious and needy if they aren’t around you. It can make them emotionally dependent on you and cause a draining relationship. Talk to your partner if you are in a relationship that is too close.
How can you tell if someone seems too attached? There are many types of clingy people. Here are some signs to help you determine if your partner is one.
All the time calling
If your partner is unable to leave you alone for any length of time or keeps calling you multiple times per day, it could be a sign they are too attached for their good. You should cringe when they call you.
You text incessantly.
It can be challenging to discern the line between flirty texting, obsession, and fun. One partner might feel comfortable with a normal level of communication, but it could feel overwhelming to another. It could be a sign of a communication imbalance if their constant texting becomes annoying, a chore, or downright drives them crazy. To ensure that they feel reassured and comforted, establish limits on how many contacts you will have with them each week.
What should you do if your date is a Stage Five Clinger? There are two possible routes:
Discuss why they are so clingy.
Clinginess is a characteristic of people. Clingy behaviour can be eliminated or reduced by understanding the root cause. Ask them what they want to happen when they text or call you.
Discuss boundaries.
Discuss with them the importance of communication boundaries. What happens if they cross those boundaries?
You might consider splitting up.
If none of these options works and you feel trapped, it is time to end the relationship. It’s possible that you are not compatible. That’s okay. Sometimes, two people have very different communication and emotional needs. It may be best to end the relationship so you can both find someone who is more compatible.