We all group up watching romantic tales and listening to love stories. Relationships are always outlined with glitter, and marriages are always portrayed in daffodils. We don’t realize that there is more to life in reality than on a screen.
When you navigate your way through love and enter the bond of marriage, you have a commitment that is more than mere vows.
Marriage is never a bed full of roses; instead a bumpy ride with many ups and downs. That said, to have a healthy one, it is essential to start it well. How you spend the first few years of your marriage depicts the patterns you follow for the rest of your married life.
You might wonder and ask: What makes you appreciative of marriage? What doesn’t let the spark die between you and your partner? How do you keep your relationship always young?
Sounds challenging to answer, right? It no longer will be.
As your expert for a happy married life and a friend throughout the ride, we have some advice for the newlyweds.
How To Have a Good Marriage
In making the journey better than the destination, here is what you can do to have a happy and lasting marriage:
Build It Together
No matter what anyone tells you to expect from marriage, it will always be for both of you.
A couple bonded together by contract are two separate individuals with their own goals, aspirations, and desires. When you marry, you set a mutual ground to bring and build everything together. What you start with lays the foundation of what follows.
To have a healthy future, build mutual understanding, offer support, and adopt good habits together in the early period of marriage. Life may get stressful, you may feel overwhelmed often, or you may have to make some compromises. To get past it, enjoy pleasurable things together.
Build a deposit of happiness, and don’t forget to draw on some during hard times. Also, read happy marriage advice on Mend the Bond.
Don’t Let the Romance Die
Love keeps it bright, so don’t let go of the effort to win your spouse repeatedly. Fancy date nights, red roses, and surprise gifts filled our teen love tales. All that fascinated our younger selves is also what our married self craves.
Be spontaneous. Dance in the rain together, sing each other love songs, and plan romantic surprises. Don’t avoid the temptations and keep the romance young.
Have an Adventure Together
Nothing is better than growing and learning together. Post-wedding blues are standard when roses wither away and rush settles. That said, nothing should be more important than the company of two.
Always look out for opportunities to do fun things together. A dopamine release, also called the happy chemical, occurs when you try something new.
Give your brain happiness and try novel things (outside the bed, too). Make adventure trips, ride a roller coaster, or try new cuisines together.
Allow Some Space
Not every day will be perfect. You will not always agree with what your significant other says or does. Neither will the situations always be how you want them to be.
Commitment and love allow one to express one’s true self without being bound to the other. Make compromises, trust the other, and most importantly, be compassionate. Show your partner what they mean to you despite the differences and disagreements.
Communicate Properly
Nothing keeps a relationship more intact than healthy communication. To understand what the other wants, communicate without maintaining barriers. There should be no shame or embarrassment between couples in letting your heart out.
Talk about everything; share your deepest fears and discuss your wildest fantasies. Tell your likes or dislikes and plan your future.
Actively resolve conflicts, don’t hold back grudges, and complain instead of hating to make things better.
Thank you and Apologize. Often
When two individuals vow to spend the rest of their lives together, they leave behind many routines to adjust together. They leave their comfort zones and go the extra mile to make the most for the others.
What is the least the other can do? Appreciate. Practice gratitude, be thankful, and validate what others do for you. Please pay attention to every big or little effort they make for you.
If it builds on your relationship, apologize. Accept your wrongdoings and be human.
Bonus Advice: Make each other feel special all the time through not only words but also actions.
The Key To Having a Healthy Marriage
Life is not a bed full of roses, but it is not a cactus either. A marriage needs two understanding individuals to go a long way.
Practice compassion, talk often, and appreciate wholeheartedly to make it work. Remember, it takes two to have a healthy marriage.