As dreadful as breakups are, they are often inevitable. And let’s face the truth if there’s anything worse than a breakup, it’s being stuck in a toxic relationship. Here lies the problem, though. How to determine that your relationship is in trouble?
It’s a tough question actually, as it depends on many different factors. However, certain things are the so-called “red flags” that you should pay attention to. For instance, if you catch your partner shop for sex dolls, it might be a cause for concern.
More seriously, though, these signs are often hard to notice, especially if you’re deeply in love with another person. Still, it’s more or less possible to determine whether you have a future together. To help you with that, we’ve prepared the following guide.
You’ve Become Indifferent
Indifference may not be the obvious relationship killer. For instance, let’s say you stop quarreling. Is it a good sign or quite the opposite? The answer (as usual) is – it depends. However, the end of fights might mean you don’t care about making things work.
Of course, we’re not saying that too much fighting is a good sign, as it’s also the red flag you should pay attention to. It means that you have your differences and try to find a compromise, though.
But indifference doesn’t only manifest itself with quarrels. You can also feel it when talking to your partner or in your sex life.
You Can’t Communicate
Clear and honest communication is the core of every relationship. If you want things to work out, you and your partner have to be able to communicate your feelings, thoughts, and opinions.
Honest conversations require trust and an open mind, which are two things that relationships need the most. But it’s not just that. Open communication will help you grow as a couple and make your relationship even better.
That’s why if you can’t share your feelings and your conversations are off-putting and indifferent, it can be a sign that your relationship is in big trouble.
You’ve Stopped Doing Things Together
To clarify things, you both should have your own hobbies and interests. It’s the core of a healthy relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with it. You should start worrying when you do everything together and don’t have anything that’s truly yours.
However, if you used to spend time on fun activities and don’t do it anymore, it’s not a positive sign. It could be a sign that you don’t find it exciting to be around each other anymore. And what’s the point of being in a relationship if you don’t like spending time together?
You Don’t Feel Attracted to Your Partner
Usually, at the beginning of relationships, couples can’t take their eyes off each other. The intimacy and desire are there, and it seems that nothing can make it better. Unfortunately, these emotions tend to fade with time.
Of course, sometimes it’s normal that it got less intense, but if you no longer find your partner attractive, there’s no point in continuing your relationship. Sure, sex isn’t everything, but being turned off by another person is one of the most significant warning signs.
You Have Different Personal Goals
As mentioned before, having separate interests isn’t wrong. On the contrary, it’s the sign of a healthy and normal relationship. The same goes for different goals and beliefs.
However, there are certain things that you need to have in common if you want to make your relationship work and ensure it survives the test of time. And we don’t mean the same music taste or favorite movies.
We’re talking about features essential for any healthy relationship, like the same relationship goals or similar worldviews.
Of course, we don’t say that you can’t make your relationship work without sharing these values, especially at the beginning. It will get more challenging in time, though.
Your Partner Avoids Conversations About Future
The conversations about potential marriage, having children, or living together, are the essence of almost every long-term relationship. But what if your partner doesn’t want to talk about them, even though you’ve been together for a long time?
Is it the cause to worry? Once again, the answer is – it depends. And to be more precise, it depends on the stage of your relationship. However, if you’ve been together for, let’s say, 5 years now, and your partner avoids discussing certain matters, it may be a warning hint.
It might mean that they don’t want your relationship to grow and indicate that you have completely different views on how it should look.
Paying attention to the red flags mentioned above will help you determine where your relationship is going. Not all of them may mean that it’s time to end things, but some of them indicate that your relationship is going through a breakdown.
Does it mean you should break up? Not necessarily. You can still make things work, but it will require both parties’ patience and desire to change.
The key is to talk about what’s happening to your relationship. Try to understand one another and seek help from other people if needed.
However, if your partner doesn’t want to change and refuses to try, it means that it’s time to go your separate ways.