Why do men cheat on a pregnant woman

When a woman is pregnant

Honestly the truth is that any man who cheats on you when you are pregnant is a wicked man and that also show that the man has been cheating on you since the beginning even before you become pregnant, because that you are pregnant don’t mean that he will cheat on you and for me to answer your question why do men cheat on a pregnant woman, the answer is according to some men I question, the reason they gave me was.

He will not enjoy sex

By this he mean is that when a woman is pregnant that he will not be able to enjoy sex with her just as the way he use to do and he can’t be able to endure and wait for those months, so that the woman will be strong again for them to continue having sex and due to that he look for where to satisfy his self during that time of her wife pregnancy. To me is a stupid reason for him to give as an excuse for cheating on her pregnant wife because a man is the one who got a woman pregnant, and that mean that they are into that together, so please if you are a man don’t cheat on your wife especially during her pregnancy, instead use that time to show her the best love and care, for during that time is when your woman need you most to encourage her and give her more strength to carry your baby.

The woman can’t monitor him

A man give me this as a reason why he love to cheat on his wife, when she is pregnant, he said that during that time of her pregnancy she won’t be able to be strong to monitor or think on what he do, so that is why he take it as a best time to cheat on his wife. This is not good of you as a man because if you are now taking that time as an advantage of cheating on your wife, have you forgetting that she carries your baby, what if something bad now happen due to you are not around, how will your heart feel?

Nagging and disturbing

Yes I agree that women nag a lot during pregnancy but remember that is due to the kicks and disturbance of the baby she is carrying in her womb. Remember that the baby she is carrying is also your baby, try to endure and make her feel strong and happy than leaving her all alone and going out with another woman due to her nagging.

Please women don bother or kill yourself why do men cheat on the pregnant woman for it is not your fault,because some men even beat their wife when she is pregnant and most of them don’t know what they are doing so please leave any marriage that don’t favor you

I was arguing with a friend long time ago when he was saying that he beats his wife. And also beat her when she is pregnant. I was surprise when I heard this and ask myself, Why did he beat his wife? And why must he beat her when she is pregnant? So there is a special way to beat a woman when she is pregnant? These and many other questions are going through my mind every day when I remember that argument, so I decided to write about it for us all to talk about it, I know that many questions too is going through your mind too, well let us talk about it.

Now let look at it this way, what kind of man will dare lay his finger on a woman to beat her talk more of pregnant woman? When I asked him that question during that time we were arguing, he was saying that women act stupid at times and many other reasons he was giving me, but when I look at his reasons I laugh and call him a fool because all these reasons are not enough for man to use and beat his woman, in fact there is no reason enough for you as a man to beat your woman. There are many ways to cushion or treat her, when she do something wrong to you or treat you bad, which are very far better than beating her.

Now another question I ask him was this how then did you beat her?  When I asked him this, he was busy saying flog her on her legs, flog her on her hand and many other rubbish he was saying which I can’t even think of saying not to talk of saying it. Why on earth will you flog her when she is carrying a child in her, do you think that she is not in pains already due to that child, what are you even thinking as a man that will dare to lay your finger on your woman, do you know how many men out there she turned down every day just to be with you. Why will you try to lay your hand on her after all these she went through just to be with you or has she done bad thing loving you.

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A man’s duty is to protect his wife and not to beat her, when she is pregnant, you are expected to make her happy, adore her, encourage her to be strong, make her feel safe and not hurting, beating and making her cry always as if it is a mistake loving you or been with you is a crime. No matter what a woman do she deserve to be loved and show concern and not hate, if you are among those that hurt your woman or beat her please stop and change and try  to make her happy because she deserve to be happy no matter what she do, in my next article I will tell you things to do when she hurt you or do something you don’t like, because there are many ways to treat her or to behave when she do something wrong to you that will make her understand and love you more than beating her.

Take your time now to love her and treat her well especially when she is with a child , bear in mind that she will not be strong as she use to be when she is not with a child in her womb and try to help her do some things or work at home, remember that women nag in some issues, so expect her to nag more now that is carrying a baby and understand that she don’t purposely do that and never complain or try to argue with her on that, I have come to understand that when a woman is carrying a baby in her womb that most of the things she do is out of the kicks and disturbance of a baby in her womb and if you don’t try to understand it you may end up hurting her or doing something to her that you will regret, so learn now to tolerate her more now that she is pregnant

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Life Of Women And Marriage

Women And Marriage

Some times if you look at some families you will see that there are so many things and mistakes that is happening in those families, but at times all these happen because there is no woman in the house or because the woman in the house fails to do her duty as the mother of the family. There are so many things about a woman and it duty in the family because for a woman to be called the mother of the house or the mother of the family all the duties that a woman do for the family must be in her and when she fail to do all these as a mother, then you know that such woman does not deserve to be a mother of the family.

A woman is not just the mother of the family but also the heart of the family and marriage, and as you know the heart is one of the main parts of the body that controls human, so in that way a woman is very important in the family because just as the heart connect and controls the body, that same way she connect and gather the man and her children, she endures a lot from anyone, she never fear for anything, she stand up always to fight and defend for the right of the family, she direct and train up his children in a good way, she direct them to be a good children for her family and society.

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A woman must have equal love on her children and her husband to create full happiness for the family, a woman must be there always when her family needs her most. A woman must put her family or marriage  first before anything, no matter what her husband do or act, she must stand strong especially for her children sake, she must back her children up in a good way and not the bad way because children easily listen to their mother and follow her steps, so she must try always to live a good life for her children not to have a bad foundation.

No man prays to have a bad woman as wife, so my advice to you as a woman is this, you must bear in mind that a man may have you now as his girlfriend but that doesn’t qualify you to be his wife because if you lack manners and good character, believe me he must one day leave you because there Is happiness in the face of that man who finds a good wife. A woman who never contribute anything good to her man, who is capable of taking a man life, who always don’t care on the way she treat and or act in the society, who is very arrogant and lacks manners of speech or approach, such woman is never what a man or family pray, or wish to have as a mother because there is nothing good that will comes out of such woman but sorrows and such woman can never make a good family or train her children in a good way.

Beauty is not all my dear stop been deceive by that beauty that attract men today to you today because a true beauty is when you have manners and good character of a good mother. Remember this as a young lady that most men that comes near you today only cares for your body, so try to leave a good life to meet that your man who you two will live together and train those beautiful kids that God will give you tomorrow. Never forget that Marriage is for better for worst, and due to that any man that want to marry always try to be careful for the kind of woman he want to marry

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Save Your Marriage

Save Your Marriage

Before I decide to write this I have got so many questions people ask me about their marriage and I decide to write the summary to help answer some questions people ask but before we head straight to what this topic is saying, let look at marriage meaning and start from there for us to understand this well.

Now marriage can be define as the legal union between a man and a woman to become husband and wife or an agreement between a man and a woman to become husband and wife. Now let get something straight from this, it says that is an agreement between two people, which is a man and a woman, there is never a time it is said to be an agreement between a person.

So if the agreement is between two people the question is this” what then is needed for this two people to be happy and enjoy the union they agree to be in together?” when you ask yourself this question there is only two answers that you will have in mind which covers all others, which is “understanding” and “love”. This are the two things that is needed for marriage to work out which are the things needed from any couple in the world to know and do, for them to save their marriage, let take a look at these two things individually.

First let look out understanding, any marriage that lacks understanding can never be strong because marriage neither succeeds by chance nor by accident. It is you as an individual who needs to make conscious and deliberate effort, if you want to save your marriage because a successful marriage will be made only from your hand work and understanding that you have on your spouse. For you to be able to save your marriage you need to get better in all both in your attitude, words, thought and actions toward your spouse. Many people put their business and career in front, such thing is never good because you need to understand that your marriage requires time and attention for you both to be a happy family remember you can never get a time spent back again, what you only have is the memories on anything you did in your marriage.

So try as much as you can to have time for your marriage or your family because the good memories you keep now is what you will have and not the time spent. Try to always think on how to make your marriage better and stop been carried away by your business, career, or your riches because if you have happiness in your family and work together with your spouse you will progress more better than when you do it alone. Don’t allow the society, expectations and your pursuit to carry you away because at the end, all these will leave you with so much problems which can affect your  personality and marriage, which will cause you sorrow and unhappy. Remember that with understanding you can be able to put head together and make your marriage work, it can never stand with only one person effort, so don’t expect your partner t be the only one working to save your marriage because the agreement was not made by one person but between two people and if is only one person that is trying to make it work then bear in mind that such marriage will find it hard to stand.

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So try to agree on a conduct or principle that will be as a rule that govern and guard you both in whatever you are doing. So in other for you to save your marriage you need to set a certain rules and agree with it as one to help you to archive your goals and expectations in marriage

Now let look at love because it is the main engine needed in  marriage for it to work, any marriage that lack love I daunt if such marriage can exist because if you love your spouse you will do anything for the person, you will understand hi s or her action, you will be there for them when they need you, you will try your best to make him or her happy you will endure all the mistakes and actions he or she did to you, you will trust him or her in all. Now when all this is gone don’t expect them to build or fix back again, know that is now your duty to fix it back in your marriage. It is your duty to fight for things that your marriage lack and bring them back just like it was before.

If you are man try to tolerate your wife, try to love her, try to find something that attract you always to her, try to show her that you care, try to call her that pet names you always call her before marriage and when your marriage was still fresh, don’t think because it has been long you knew her and due to that she will not to be attractive any more to you because marriage should always be refresh for you not to get tired it.

For you woman, remember you are the woman of the house, so try to always make yourself attractive to your husband because if you stop it, know that other women out there may help you do that for you, don’t think because you are married that you will stop taking care of your body, remember that you are taking care of that body before you meet him, so why trying to stop now. Do that thing you know that make him happy, cook that food you know he love eating and always try to entertain him to make him not to be staying away from home.

You both should remember that you people are not same opinion, experience, family, thought or neither do you attend the same school or have the same friends, so due to that try to always understand and love each other the way he or she is and find your spouse to be the best and valuable person in your life. Finally always remember that nobody choose your spouse for you but you did and accept to live with him or her, so try then to love, understand and make him or her happy.

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how your youth life can be the cause of your marriage problems

How your youth life can be the cause of your marriage problems

Some marriages that are broken today don’t just happen but some due to the characters or the kind of life the live when they are still in their youth, which causes them the problems they are facing today in their marriage. You may be asking yourself this question “ How can my youth life be the cause of my problem?” well let look at these two problems that some marriages are facing today.youth

  1. Infertility or barrenness. This is one of the major problems that some marriages are facing today, you can bear me witness that most of the broken marriages today is caused by lack of child, but before rushing to blame your partner ask yourself this question “ is there anything I do wrong during my youth state”.
  • For men. Some men will say the doctor confirm that am okay and my wife is okay too but why can’t we have is like I will try a new woman. At this time is not all about what the doctor said is all about you telling yourself the truth spiritually. How can you expect to have a child when all you do during your youth life is to pregnant and deny a lady of been the one responsible of her pregnancy knowing fully when is you. How can you also expect to have a child after spending most of your life in hotel sleeping with different girls, receiving different causes and spirit. So you see is not all about going to hospital or what the doctor but this time is all about looking for how to spiritually clean yourself and ask for forgiveness of sins of the past for you to be free.
  • For women. Some women have done so many abortions and have taken so many drugs that will make them not to get pregnant for a while or remove their pregnant and later you expect miracle to happen, so my advice for you is this, better look for how to spiritually clean yourself too and also ask for the forgiveness of the past.
  1. Make sure you are with the right person. Most people just rush into marriage without asking or even bother to know if the person is truly made for them. Some go into marriage due to advice or recommendation the get from their friends who may not even come a good family. How can you expect to have a happy marriage when you are not been properly directed. The only thing they may be bothered to look may be their blood group and the love the have for each other at that time without thinking of future what it may cause them. let say that marriage is like a person who want to wear a shoe and wear someone one instead of his own, the person will only be comfortable if the shoe is the same size with his or her own this same is marriage, you cannot be happy or relax if you marry to the wrong person.

Conclusion

If you are still a youth please know that ;you need to be very careful in what you are doing because any mistake you do now may affect you tomorrow but if you have made the mistake already try to advice others not to make the same mistake.

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Some dangerous mistakes women make in marriage decisions

Some dangerous mistakes women make in marriage decisions

Some dangerous mistakes women make in marriage decisions

There are several mistakes some ladies make and these mistakes are very dangerous and can cause some women problems in their Union or even make them not to marry.marriage

  1. There are people who reject marriage proposal based on experience or story of other people. You hear people say things like “I can never marry a soldier because the one my sister married did not favor her; the soldier was always maltreating her”. Have you taken out time to study and find out if your sister is the cause? If that sister is not cultured and has a bad attitude to life, even if she end up marring a Bishop or a Pope she will still be a bad partner, it will only take the grace of God for that marriage to work out. Instead of concluding on a wrong believe why not take out time and find out what the problem is with your sister and avoid possessing that same character so that you can enjoy your own marriage.
  2. Be careful when a man lavish you with all manner of gifts at the beginning of your relationship with him. If you are not careful those may be all you may ever receive from him when he lures you in to marrying him with his gifts, don’t be beclouded by gifts still keep to the standard of marriage so that you don’t regret the unbalanced and distorted decision you may take in a hurry. There are men who know and believe that women can easily be broken by giving of gifts so they capitalize on it to deceive women into relationship they never prepared for, am not advising not to accept gifts but am advising you that any given time in your relationship when you are receiving gifts let your eyes be very open and your sense of reasoning be at alert for pure and sincere judgment of issues. There are people who rush into marriage with wrong assumption that the man cares really good by giving of gifts but today they are faced with the reality because the same man who use to spoil them with gifts before marriage have suddenly turned out to be one of the worse stingy man that ever lived on planet earth, some have equally rushed out of the same marriage while some who are still in their own marriage are only “Enduring” their marriage instead of “Enjoying” their marriage.
  3. Some people reject marriage proposal because the person they had agreed to marry is not treating them as their fellow friend. This brings comparism into your relationship forgetting the fact that we are peculiarly different from one another. We all express pour love in different ways , some express theirs by giving gift, some express theirs by spending quality time with their partner while some express theirs through constant “hanging out”. So if your partner expresses his own and move on with it.
  4. There are people who want to enter union because the guy is handsome. Please don’t try to jump into marriage because of the physical appearance of a guy, because beauty will; always fade and can even be distorted by eventualities of life, though beauty is good but character is the ultimate over beauty , so endeavor to find out sincerely the character of the person you want to live the rest of your life with. If you know the character it will help you to know if he is someone you can afford to live the rest of your life with, it can also guide you into some life decisions to adjust some of your own character in other to make the whole thing work out sincerely and not in pretence.marriage
  5. Don’t go into union with the mindset of retaliation. Some girls accept marriage just because they want to hurt someone who have offend them, for example two girlfriends who before now where very close friends and confidants but fell out in the cause of time and remain separated one among them may do everything possible to ensure that she snatches the friend’s partner and go into marriage with him not because she loves him but because she want to retaliate and deal with her friend whom she believe offended her. To me that is absolute madness, at long run since the foundation is wrong and faulty where there is no atom of love but wickedness and revenge that marriage will not last till the evening of their life.
  6. Don’t accept or enter into marriage because you want to avoid or run away from criticism. There is some girls in cause of dating discover that the relationship cannot work out due to some character of the guy but due to what they think that people may say if they broke up with the guy, despite their findings they still force themselves and go ahead and marry the guy, as per such important and significant factor you will discover that marriage which is originally made by God to enjoy will suddenly become an entity to be endured, such union will keep having problems as long as they are together, the partners involved gets offended at ay slightest provocation and irrelevant things and people will keep imagining why trivial things causes problems for such couples not knowing that the marriage originally is wrongly built foundation of endurance and bitterness. A broken engagement is far better than a divorce that is the more reason why you must quit any hoping against hope with the mindset that you will change him.
  7. Due to belonging to the class. There are ladies who accept marriage proposers just because they want to answer the name of being referred to as a rich man’s wife not knowing that with time she will be seen and treated as one of the acquired furniture in the house since she only came for money she never labored for or was part of, she came for fame, class and greed. In the cause of time I have seen women who married a very rich man but later abandoned the marriage and ran away despite the available wealth at their command, when asked “why run away” their reply has always been inform of a question which goes thus “is it not the living that enjoys wealth?” you will agree with me that such statement tells a lot about it. I know of a lady who really displayed wealth in her union, each time she dressed, the color of car she will use that moment she really had plenty of wealth to display many, people outside her union admiring her and wishes to be like her in terms of union, but it didn’t take much time when she abandoned the union and the plenty of wealth and ran out of the union, when we tried finding out what led to her running away from the marriage, we discovered that the she married never had value and regards for her so he beats and maltreats her with cable wires so she never had peace in that marriage, when it got to the point that she could no longer bear it, she had no choice than to quit the marriage. Never allow wealth to lure you into a marriage you will regret.
  8. Don’t enter into union because you want financially support your family. There are ladies who because of their family’s financial problems rush into any available rich man for marriage in order to start harvesting or milking money with it to send for her family, she goes in to it with the mindset that it is a business center where you go to make money. This is a very wrong mindset or believes about their marital status, and when it is applied, it will not only cause the marriage to crash, but destroy the life of that marriage. People with such mindset or believes, any time they stop getting money from the marriage they see no reason why they should still continue with the marriage so it begins to ferment troubles or begin to do anything capable of breaking or tearing the marriage apart.
  9. There are ladies who always appear very expensive to the public thereby scaring people away from them when they tend to get closer. You tend to discover that some of these ladies have good character when you successfully get closer to them. How will people find out when you scare them away with your philosophy of “make sure you appear expensive” I advice that you appear jovial and easy to talk to life style, neat and clean.

 

Advice for you.

A woman should always try to be careful when choosing man who she want to avoid facing one of these problems because if there is a problem in a family it is a woman who suffers it the most than a man so due to that, I advice you to be careful when choosing whom to marry!

10 secrets to a happy marriage

10 secrets to a happy marriage

 Secrets of a happy marriage

Before we go deep into the let first look at it meaning, the we look at 10 secrets to a happy marriage

Matrimony is said to be the legal union between a man and a woman to become husband and wife. Experience has taught couples that true love never fails. There are certain this that needed to make a successful marriage in spite the work of devil to undermine that plan. We should always try to make our marriage fresh and new every day no matter what because a happy marriage is that one that always refresh love and always tell their partner how much they love them because those words makes them happy and if your partner and you are always happy with each other no plans of anyone can divide you two. These are some secrete things that will make our marital life strong, happy and enjoyable. “10 secrets to a happy marriage”10 secrets to a happy marriage

“10 secrets to a happy marriage”

  1. Love

 This is the main thing that is needed in a marriage because without love there will be no happiness, forgiveness and tolerance, because there is a quote that say that love covers multitude of sins, if that is the case that means where there is love there is peace and happiness, so the word love is very vital in a marriage. Couples should love each other without reservation. We need to know love language of our spouse. Tell each other words of affirmation “ I love you”, “I care about you” “you mean a lot to me” “you are the love of my life” “I can do without you” all these keep it up and happy.

        2. Together

Couples are free o do everything they like together as they think that will fit them. You ought to know that you are the “STEP” which means that you should sleep together , talks to each other, eat together because couples that do all these together always find there union happy and enjoyable.happy marriage       3. Be united as one

this is one of the secrets of a happy marriage The man and woman should be together leaving all others, couples as one united by marriage and God should avoid interference from external family relations. The man should protect his wife and make her accepted by his family, the wife also should accept her husband people and his family. The man owns the body of a woman while the woman owns the body of a man which means that Sex is to be enjoy by them freely at anytime as they want.

“10 secrets to a happy marriage”

       4. Be open 

Try to always be open with your spouse and talk about everything with him or her. Do not hide your feelings, listen to his or her complains, opinions and discuss them. Don’t leave your house in anger stay and resolve it amicably. When your spouse tell you some areas of your life that you need to change do not feel bad about it. Share ideas plan together there is no secrete.

      5. Truthfulness 

It is not good to be built on falsehood, couples should try as much a possible to avoid telling lies. Try your best to avoid telling lies to you spouse because it gives room to doubt or suspicious. Remember that nothing is hidden under the sun. yet your Yes be Yes and No be No.

      6. Appreciation

Learn to appreciate one another time to time. Husband appreciate your wife beauty “You are more beautiful than when I first meet you”. Appreciate her food, her dressing and everything about her. Wife you must appreciate his caring and handwork “Darling you work too hard, please rest because we still need you”, focus your attention on your spouse strength than weakness, encourage instead of criticize and pray instead of gossiping. Learn to say “Thank You” and “I am sorry” because the words are healing and binds couples together.

         7. Be Sensitive

A wise should be sensitive to the husband’s Observe his mood and know when he is angry and finds out ways to appease him. Observe when he dresses up to work because his dressing s says a lot about you as the wife. Do you ;know the food your husband enjoys most? The way to a man’s heart is the stomach and don’t joke about it. Whenever a man fails to eat your food women are in big trouble. Leave of everything and find the cause. Men should also try to understand their wives. Women love petting from their husbands, touching and use of love words.

“10 secrets to a happy marriage”

        8.Be creative

Avoid monitory in doing things. Add variety to your home, you can re-arrange your home and add new menu to your cooking plans, add surprise and fun in your homes. When last did you buy a gift for your wife? When last did you take your wife out for a good treat or shopping? Many men can do a lot of things for their women before their union but when they are finally married all those things become the things of past which is not good.

        9. Believe in the matrimony

Many people don’t believe in the marriage they are into, every married couples should do anything it takes to make their matrimony workable because it takes a man and a woman to make a union last. The couples need to see their self at in complete without each other.

      10. Spend time at home

For a lasting happy union you need to spend time with your partner, spend time in your home instead of hanging outside a lot, do it with your partner. If you spend time with and relate with your partner regularly, you will get closer and more intimacy to each other because for marriage to work both have to invest in it.

Conclusion on 10 secrets to a happy marriage.

Always try to believe in your partner and love and cherish your partner for it is said that “for where your treasure is there your heart be also” so why not you take your marriage as a treasure, below is some questions I want you to ask yourself today and plan to arrange your marriage with it

  1. Tell Me When last did you say I love you to your spouse?
  2. When last did you complement his or her dressing?
  3. How many times have you give her food in the mouth?
  4. Have you kiss her for some time now?
  5. Did you have time to play with your husband?

Now if you can sincerely answer this questions and find yourself not doing any of this said above know that you are getting it wrong because once in a while both of you should become children and play together. Men love the tender touch of their wives and also fancy their happy laughter. Laughter as they said is medicinal and it heal souls, wounds and refreshes the body. Make plenty laughter available in your home  and enjoy the wife of your youth!

12 signs to know you are been manipulated by your lover or partner

12 SIGNS TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE BEEN MANIPULATED BY YOUR LOVER OR PARTNER

If you think that you are been manipulated by your lover these are the signs you need to know for you to find out that you are been manipulated.lover

Do you think you are being manipulated ?

Sometimes we manipulate our partner to get things our way. we may at times do it purposely just for fun, we at times do it sneakily and subtly to get something without confronting them. And it is all fun and games for a while, as both partners realize that one of them is being arm-twisted into giving in.

Manipulation is cute the first few times or when is a harmless request from them. Some of the request can go like this, your girlfriend or wife say something like. “am not going to have sex with you tonight if you don be back on time” you can’t help but to smile about it. Or if your boyfriend or husband brings breakfast on bed and ask you if he can go out with the guys on a weekend. You may even laugh about it and accept his request.

Knowing if you Are Been Manipulated

But what if these cute threats turn into something darker or more bitter or agonizing?

Do you think you have the spine to stand and decline something if you think it would go against your principles or wishes?

Do you have the spine to stand your ground and say ‘no’ when you don’t want to do something?

It not easy to reflect within and ask yourself if you are a victim of manipulation in your relationship. But everything starts with self realization. If you can accept the fact that you are a victim of manipulation or emotional abuse, only then can you be able to try to work yourself out of the web manipulation that has been built around in you.

Use this 12 signs and ask yourself if you feels any of this symptoms around you or in your relationship, and if you are doing this things it time to take a stand and believe in yourself for who you are, or you just get work over all the time and there won’t be a thing you can do to stop your partner from using you or manipulating you.

      1. Anxiety

You feel anxious each time they want to ask for a favor. You fear they may ask you something that you can’t do. And yet, you know you can’t deny them their request because your heart always feel that you need to do what will always make your them feel happy with you without you knowing that you are been manipulated.

          2.You hate yourself

You hate yourself for being so weak for accepting the request made. You realize that they are using you or taking advantage of your niceness and generosity, but you are too timid too.

           3. You can’t say no

You can’t say no to them. Just the thought of turning them down or saying no seems like a crazy idea and you feel helpless and week each time you even try to say it. You know the right thing to do is say ‘no’ but you cant bring yourself to say it.partner

        4. Obligation

You believe you are obligated in doing something for them. You constantly feel grateful to them for loving you or being in your life.

       5. You can’t shut up

You just can’t say a simple no’ and shut up.  But you have a deep need to explain yourself and your actions every time, to everyone. And you want your them to understand your mind and your reasons clearly. While your partner on the other hand is always vague or doesn’t justify the things they do.

        6. You justify your actions

You try to reason with yourself and justify that you aren’t being manipulated you will always try to convince yourself that it is you who want to do the favor for them.

        7. You are bad

You will always feel or look at yourself as a bad partner for turning them down no matter what they ask of you.

        8. Are you selfish

You will see yourself as a selfish person for not helping them in their troubles. At times You feel really guilty each time you turn their request down. And you always feel so bad that you can’t even look them in their eyes. Because of all the guilty you are carrying you. It just seems so much easier to just hate yourself and do what they ask of you.

        9. Expectations grow

Your partner always expect more from you. No matter what you do or how much you do. They behave like they are happy and much pleased with your giving ways. But they always ask for more which you will always see yourself struggling to do it for them.

         10. It’s your fault

You blame yourself for not being good to them. And you feel guilty for being idle and relaxed. When you could be doing something to please them or make them happy.

         11. You hate awkward pauses

When they ask you to do something for them. You may be able to muster your courage and say ‘no’ . But as they pause and stare at you for a few seconds. By then you can’t help but still feel your stomach churn. And then you give them another opportunity to use you once more just the way they always do.

         12. You can’t lie

Just because you can’t lie or anyone else that is manipulating you. Even though you know you can never get caught, you can’t tell them that you are too busy or too occupied to do something for them but instead you accept it and always find a way to do it for them to be happy with you?

Conclusion

With these signs listed try to find out what you are to your partner and if they are manipulating you but please always try to make them happy don’t use this as a means to hurt you lover.

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